Connecting. It’s something we all strive for in our daily lives. All of us know someone we seek out to talk to at a networking event or work with and someone we avoid at all costs (even when it takes more energy to avoid them). But what makes these two people different?
Below are some of the simple things I noticed successful networkers and leaders do everyday that make people come to them.
Listen to everyone. How many times have you talked to someone and it felt like they were just waiting for you to finish so they could respond? Truly listening to what is being said and reacting is what we all appreciate and gravitate too in any situation.
I used to find myself waiting for my turn to talk about myself at a networking event instead of taking the time to listen and respond to what the other person was saying. After I realized this, I was more effective at finding common ground because I was actually interacting and responding to the other person, as opposed to just talking at them.
Waiting for someone else to take the first step will almost always result in no steps taken at all. If you’re always waiting for the perfect moment to introduce yourself or share an idea then it will never come. The ones that connect with others are the ones that go ahead and do what the rest of us never get around to.
3. Be Honest
When you’re honest you are authentic and people relate to that. It’s ok to admit if you’re not sure about a topic or question. Nobody likes know-it-alls, especially when they are wrong.
You have probably heard that leaders should never show weakness. That is just flat out wrong. People are critical and will find out your weaknesses. By admitting them it shows honesty and a willingness to learn and work with others. What leader would you rather work for?
None of these tips for effectively connecting are a secret. In fact, they’re obvious. So why is it that some people connect with others and some people miss the connection? Ego, immaturity, and self-centeredness can be some of the reasons. All it takes is a genuine effort to focus on the other person and the rest will take care of itself.
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