Most dating apps ask: “What are you?”
TransMe asks: *“Who are you—and how much of yourself are you ready to show today?”
Here, “trans” is not shorthand for transgender, nor a decorative “beyond.” It is an act. From the label you were given, trans to the name you chose. From performing safety, trans to telling the truth. From “Do I deserve this?” trans to “I deserve to be loved.”
TransMe is that act, made into a space—now shared by over one million people.
Not a Matching Problem. A Survival Problem.
67% of trans dating app users have been harassed for their identity.
43% hide being trans on their profiles.
Only 12% feel safe being themselves.
Traditional apps force a binary: disclose or conceal.
TransMe introduces Gradual Visibility:
• Open Water Mode – No gender identity displayed
• Trust Mode – Disclose after mutual values assessment
• Transparent Mode – Full disclosure, matched only with verified allies
• New gender field: “Exploring” – “We’re not the identity police. You don’t need a therapist’s approval to date.”
Matching rationale is transparent. Income is never used as a signal for trans users.
“I Am Not Your Mascot.”
We don’t show: “This person is interested in trans issues.”
We show: *“This person has reported anti-trans hate speech.” *
Spectatorship vs. solidarity.
The Act of trans-ing Belongs to Everyone.
A cisgender user wrote:
“I hide my anxiety, my indie film taste—everything ‘too much.’ On TransMe, for the first time, I can show only what I want to show today.”
From performance to authenticity. From “Will they like me?” to *“Do I like myself?” *
We Don’t Promise Love. We Promise You Won’t Have to Fake It.
“Here, you don’t have to defend yourself before introducing yourself.”
Over 1.8 million trans people live in the U.S. More than 60% have avoided dating because of their identity. They are not unwanted—they just don’t want to be interrogated before they are loved.
One million users have chosen to stop pretending.
TransMe cannot change the law or stop online harassment. It does one thing: the moment you hesitate over which gender, which photo, how much truth—it gives you space, without demanding you decide right now.
Facing yourself is not a finish line. It’s a path.
TransMe is just a lamp along the way.
About TransMe
Trusted by over 1 million users, TransMe is the #1 safe dating app for the trans community—and for anyone who wants to date without the mask. Founded in 2021 and headquartered in Brooklyn, NY.
Available now on iOS:
https://apps.apple.com/us/app/transme-transgender-dating/id1542897595