Me Time: You Deserve It as a Mother

One dilemma that almost all mothers share is that we find it hard to give ourselves some “me time.” We often feel guilty when we start thinking about ourselves because deep in our hearts, we say that our children should always come first. But mothers are no superheroes no matter how hard we wish we are. Just like any human being, we get tired and worn out. Remember, you deserve a break, and we are here to help you achieve it.

Have an Exercise Routine

Though it’s hard to hear, you won’t be able to give your family the care that they deserve if you are not physically healthy. Many women who juggle work and attending to their loved ones often do not have the time to exercise. An added factor to that is the on and off lockdown that continues to disrupt some of our daily fitness routines, including jogging outdoors or going to the gym.

According to the American Heart Association, we should get at least 75 minutes of hard-core exercise or 150 minutes of moderate physical activity per week. Though losing weight is often seen as one of the goals of being physically active, there are also other benefits, such as reducing the risk of certain illnesses, including heart disease and hypertension. Exercising daily will also help boost your energy, strengthen your heart, and improve your blood circulation.

Get Enough Sleep

Many mothers, especially those who have newborns and children below three years old, find it hard to have at least eight hours of sleep at night. If you are mostly operating in auto-pilot or on three or four hours of rest, chances are it will take a toll on your mind and body. Studies say that being deprived of sleep often leads to sadness, irritability, frustration, anger, and depression. These types of negative emotions will not just affect you but could also possibly hurt your family.

If possible, it would be extremely helpful if you could set a sleep routine that you can regularly practice. Choose a specific time, and make sure that you are already winding down at least one hour before the sleep time that you set. You could also limit using electronic gadgets at bedtime because they emit blue light that disrupts our body’s normal circadian rhythm.

Another tip is to take a warm shower or a relaxing bubble bath. The warm water basically signals your body that you are about to end the day.


Now that we are spending most of our time at home, the internet and our gadgets are our way to unwind and connect to the outside world. Though many say that being on their phones helps them unwind, the internet can also be the largest source of stress and anxiety. Spending a huge amount of time online exposes us to news, articles, and content that could trigger anxiety and depression.

To avoid unnecessary stress, you can begin by spending at least 30 minutes a day away from your electronics. Use that time to unplug and detach yourself from the chaotic world. You can play some music and dance your problems away like nobody is watching or start reading that interesting book waiting for you on the shelf. Most importantly, you can use that offline time to have fun interactions with your family.

Learn New Things or Start a Hobby

Surely there is something that you’ve always wanted to learn or do like playing a musical instrument or starting that DIY arts and crafts project you’ve pinned on your board. You can also try one of the most popular hobbies among parents today — growing an indoor or urban garden.

If you think you do not have a green thumb, you can also consider tapping into self-publishing books and writing a novel, a compilation of poems, a memoir, or an autobiography. Whichever you choose, try to get out of your comfort zone and discover the extent of your potential.

Relax Your Mind

Yoga is one of the most popular types of exercise that helps relax the mind, body, and soul. In a nutshell, it is a combination of breathing exercises, physical poses, and meditation that aims at lowering stress levels, heart rate, and blood pressure.

There are many forms of yoga, but the one that focuses on stress management is hatha yoga. It is the most common among beginners because of its easy-to-learn movements and slow pace. Since personal training coaches are hard to book now that we are in the middle of the pandemic, you can self-learn by watching yoga for beginners videos on the internet.

Loving our family shouldn’t be the reason why we forget ourselves. Instead, they should serve as inspirations for us to take better care of our minds, emotions, and body. As mothers, we should also set an example and teach our kids that no matter what the situation is, it is never wrong to prioritize your needs as a human being. 


Sudarsan Chakraborty is a professional writer. He contributes to many high-quality blogs. He loves to write on various topics.