Sarcasm is funny and enjoyable until and unless it is not personal and it is not frequent. Do your friends also tease you or others with cruelty or with passive aggression and before you feel offended, they say, “just kidding” and dismiss the whole conversation? This type of passive-aggressive behavior or people is not good for your mental health. These people are such a player that they even know how to provide silent treatment as well instead of addressing your issues.
And, the worst part is that we are so naïve that we are unable to understand these signs until and unless it is too late to recognize them. This blog will help you with ways to deal with passive-aggressive people or friends in life so that such things cannot impact your mental health and you can live your life positively. So, let’s get started.
An Introduction to Passive Aggression
According to the research and study, people who carry passive aggression express their negative feelings indirectly, and indirect possession of feelings is so harmful to the opposite person. Instead of talking with the concerned person or dealing with the issues, they start behaving in a certain way that veils their masks of discontent and hostility. If you are also someone like this or not open about talking about your feelings from childhood or early age, you also might be carrying passive-aggressive behavior. Although, it is an alternative way to address issues that messes up your mind.
A few of the most common signs of passive aggression are sulking, withdrawing emotionally, or finding indirect ways of communicating your thoughts and feelings. People who carry such behavior or personality act like this due to fear of losing control carries insecurity and lacks of self-esteem which results in depression, stress, anxiety, fear of conflict or rejection, or insecurity. They also carry such behavior because they might be holding a grudge against people.
Signs of Passive-Aggressive Behavior
Passive-aggressive people show that they are fine but also speak contradictory words at the same time. They are not ready to claim their feelings instead they subtly play with their words and show their aggression indirectly which is not easy to recognize instantly. They usually carry a negative attitude and complain about everything and everyone that surrounds them on a regular basis. Instead of praising someone or something, they try to ignore other’s achievements. Additionally, they also use a sarcastic tone as a weapon to attack others, and then they pretend like they were kidding. They also spread rumors about others which is really harmful to other’s mental health.
Ways or Strategies to Deal with Passive Aggression
Below are some best ways or strategies to deal with passive aggression people at the workplace or in life:
- Identify the behavior and do not play by them.
The first step to deal with passive-aggressive people is to identify the patterns of their behavior. With the help of the above-mentioned introduction and signs, you will be able to identify their behavior. The straight and simple way to deal with them is to not escalate. By not escalating such useless issues you will be able to achieve peace and stress-free life.
- Create a safe bubble for yourself and your mental health
The second and the most effective way to deal with passive-aggressive behavior are to create a safe environment for you. If you are thinking or planning to raise your concern or issues, do not shoot it directly to the authority, think about it, get some proof, and then talk about it. If you are not planning to do it, just simply create a safe bubble for yourself so that it cannot impact your mental health.
- Take the help of words carefully
By using correct, clear, and straight language or words, you will be able to find peace within yourself. If they are constantly using a sarcastic tone, you can avoid having conversations with them. Instead of complaining or explaining them, just simply leave the conversation and do not become part of the “sarcastic group.”
- Stay calm and avoid conversation with them
In order to deal with them, you really need to stay calm, if you will not stay calm, they will try to provoke your ugly side (trust me; you don’t want to show that). Therefore, staying calm is the whole key to deal with people who show passive-aggressive behavior.
- Identify the cause behind their behavior
By identifying the cause, you will be able to recognize the reason behind their behavior. You can try finding out the reason by asking them questions that root their problem. While asking those questions make sure you are listening to them and giving them the opportunity to explain themselves.
- Provide training, if they are your close ones
If they are your close ones and they really matter to you, you can try providing coaching to them to resolve their inner issues. Also, try teaching them effective communication skills so that they don’t hurt anyone in the future or present with their sarcastic tone.
- Set boundaries and clear standards
If they are your colleagues or team members, you can set clear boundaries or standards with them so that they don’t hurt you anymore. You can explain to them about your negative behavior and if they cause problems again next time, you can reiterate the boundaries and standards again.
- Open up about their issues through effective communication style
If you think that they might be going through something bad deep inside, you can try having a conversation with them about their issues. Make sure you both are on good terms and try to develop skills that bring confidence in them.
I hope this blog helps you to understand the best and effective ways to deal with passive-aggressive people or behavior.
Thanks for reading!
More power to you.