If you’re used to dating younger men, it only stands to reason that an older man might pose more of a challenge. Older men are more experienced, not to mention more confident and more emotionally mature. However, they can also be a lot more reserved than their younger counterparts.
That said, don’t be surprised if you’ve got your eye on a hot silver fox, and it isn’t crystal clear whether he’s serious about you or not. As an older man, he likely just has different tells that would clue a woman in that he’s genuinely interested. Here are a few clues to keep an eye out for.
- He really looks at you.
And, no, we don’t mean he checks you out or can’t stop himself from staring at your chest when you decide to step out in a low-cut top. We mean he really looks at you – the entire package – and appreciates you for the uniquely genuine person that you are.
Any guy, especially the younger types, can appreciate a nice butt or some legendary cleavage. But older men who are really into someone have a way of looking at that person that suggests they’ve got so much more on their mind than simple animal lust.
- He makes room in his schedule for you.
An older man – especially the busy, affluent type that makes a generous sugar daddy – knows that his time is valuable. He’s not going to waste it on just anyone, least of all a younger woman he knows he’s not serious about.
So if the older man in your life goes out of his way to make room to see you in an otherwise hectic schedule, you can rest easy in the knowledge that he’s really into you. This goes double for a man who’s actually willing to rearrange his schedule just to see you more often.
- He treats you like a major priority.
When men aren’t serious about someone they’re dating, especially if the men in question are still young, it shows. Such men really do seem to have a “YOLO” approach to everything they do, and dating is no exception. They’re too worried about missing out to get serious about anyone in particular.
An older man who’s really into you, on the other hand, will show he sees your value by how he treats you. And he’ll likely prioritize a lot of other things that show he’s thinking about the future. Think work ambitions, cozy housing, and possible plans to settle down.
- He prioritizes your wellbeing.
And no, we don’t mean he expects to keep tabs on your every move, as that’s not healthy behavior in a man of any age. We mean he clearly cares whether you’re taken care of and safe, and he wants to be part of making sure you are.
A man like this takes the time to make sure you got home safe if you were going home on your own. He might even go out of his way to make your life easier in little ways, like seeing that little errands and items on your to-do list get done with as little inconvenience to you as possible.
- He opens his heart to you.
Older men, especially very desirable or important ones, have been around the block a time or two. They’ve no doubt experienced their loving moments, but they’ve likely experienced their share of heartbreak, as well.
Even a couple of painful breakups or heartbreaking events will make an older man a little guarded, so pay attention if your guy opens up to you. Although it may seem like the simplest thing in the world to talk about personal matters or people he’s close to, it’s a bigger deal than you probably know.
- He doesn’t shy away from the idea of commitment.
Although there are definitely older men out there who still enjoy playing the field, many are tired of the instability of that life and looking for something more substantial. If that’s the case for your guy, and he really is into you, he won’t be bashful about the idea of committing.
So don’t be too quick to write him off as not being serious if he wants to talk about the future or says things that imply he sees you as part of the picture. It’s a sign that he’s not only into you but also sees some serious promise in whatever you two have together.
In other words, most older men may be reserved, but they don’t play many games. If they’re not interested in more than a casual fling, they won’t tell you that they’re looking for more. That’s a sign that the guy really is not only looking for more but wants it with you specifically.
